Friday, June 17, 2011
Pet peeves often involve specific behaviors of someone close, such as a spouse or significant other. These behaviors may involve disrespect, manners, personal hygiene, relationships, and family issues. A key aspect of a pet peeve is that it may well seem acceptable to others. For example, a supervisor may have a pet peeve about people leaving the lid on the copier up and react angrily, be annoyed when others interrupt when speaking, or by messy desks of his or her subordinates. That same supervisor may witness employees coming into work late, and not feel any annoyance whatsoever. (Wikipedia)
This morning my dear husband woke up early, got out of bed, and turned off the fan. He meant it to be an act of kindness (often I’m clothed in prickly goosebumps from being cold). Poor guy, he didn’t know that my mom used to wake me up by turning off the fan. As the blades of the fan slowed to a stop a rage began to bubble within me. “Turn the fan on!!” I yell. It took awhile for the blood to drain from my eyes. A delightful breakfast cooked by my groom helped cool the air.
One’s pet peeve is another’s love language.
Jon meant to communicate love but instead pulled a nerve. For us, this is an everyday occurrence. Sometimes we laugh it off. I say, “I may be laughing on the outside but not on the inside!” We are very much different yet still divinely similar like no one else.
I’m still wading through this experience, asking God to shine his light. There is a lesson had.
I wonder if it’s not so much the pet peeve that dishonors God as it is the knee jerk reaction we have in result of a pet peeve. The joy we allow a pet peeve to steal. The control we gain by “pressing one’s buttons.”
It is especially hard when you do not know what one’s pet peeves are. Is that why birds of a feather like to flock together? It’s a challenge to meet new and/or different people. After I meet someone new and/or different my head is running a mile a minute. I hate being misunderstood. I worry that my attempts to show love may have inadvertently punctured a nerve.
Living life with similar people ensures that lines that should not be crossed will not be crossed. Everyone plays by the same rules and abides by the same boundaries.
Our pet peeves and other’s pet peeves make living in this world difficult, especially because God wants us to rub elbows with strangers – especially strangers that do not share our upbringing, heritage, and context. He wants us to go to all. “He said to them, "Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation.” (Mark 6:19)
So what do we do? It’s a true conundrum. Good luck riding yourself of any and all pet peeves! Would it be fair to say it comes with the sin-nature territory?
One thing to hold on to – We should each be living for Jesus, not swayed by the rules of humanity. Sometimes this means taking precautions and being considerate in order to make Christ known. Other times this means having grace so that when lines are crossed our knee-jerk reaction is love – taking the opportunity to live out the Gospel.
…I’m still tossing these ideas around, but thought I would share something with you, even if it is in mid-thought.
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
I may not get to see my Texan friends and family as often as I'd like but God is using this distance for good. Since moving to Deerfield, God has come alongside me and lent me his eyes, allowing me to see my family and friends as he does - which casts a warm glow upon their faces. I am learning to treasure who they are in Christ and not the memories we are creating or missing.
With that said, allow me to share a poem whose words came to me a while back, as I was pondering a special way to celebrate the lives of two dear sisters. I will not reveal who I wrote the poem for, because, after reading it - even just a few moments ago - I believe it is for all. I think it is hard for us to see ourselves as God sees us. If we could all just comprehend and accept how much the Lord treasures us, I wonder what the world would be like.
In Genesis we get a first glimpse of our Lord as the creator.
he describes not only what he is doing,
but also what he is thinking.
From Genesis we know that
everything God creates is good,
but that his creation of man is very good.
This means that you,
his creation, are very good.
From your bones to your toes, you are very good.
Unfortunately, today those words, very good,
sound impersonal and distant
and sometimes simply untrue.
But you must have faith and believe
that in Christ you are very good.
What was uttered by God before the fall,
became true in Christ through your salvation.
God did not need to emphasize the good with a very,
yet he did.
He did so because he wants you to know
that you’re exterior and interior is so beautiful and wonderful,
beyond the most gorgeous flower and beautiful creature,
that it must be emphasized.
You are his very good creation.